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I notice that the respondent is zeroing in on maybe four comments in a page best summarized as "real men don't have to act like Real Men" and choosing to throw out the entire page.
Is a man participating in housework a "female pornographic fantasy"? (For that matter, is it a pornographic fantasy for me to want a man to buy himself sexy underwear, or to wear sexy underwear that I might buy him?) Is a man who cleans up after himself an "insipid slave with no desires, etc, of his own"? Is it horrible for me to want a man to arouse me? to do things now and then just to pamper me?
Next: This page is by all of us. Believe it or not, this does not mean that every single sentiment on this page is shared by every single one of us. I'd be unsettled if a man answered all my demands with "yes, Milady" (though I'd be perfectly happy for him to do it in the context of one evening's scene). Another woman might hate colored underwear. A third might want to take the car for a tune-up herself; a fourth might hate foreign films. We all would agree cheerfully with most of the items here, and we'd leave some out. We aren't cookie cutters. Men shouldn't have to be cookie cutters either.
And you know, there _are_ dom women who want a man willing to be submissive. There _are_ women who think that long-haired men are invigoratingly sexy. Maybe she wouldn't ask a man to drive 125 miles to buy her sushi, but she might ask him to drive 125 miles to pick her up when her car's broken down on the last leg of a trip. Are men willing to think about these possibilities that are far from their traditional roles?
And by the way, I wouldn't ask my husband to drive 125 miles to buy me sushi (or chocolate, the likelier proposition). But he once took a 300 mile round trip, of his own volition and with no prompting from me, to find a sentimental item I'd given him that he'd lost in a distant city. And he found it. Top that.